A reason why you should marry now than later..

Because of that one reason: Our life can be so boring.

Sometimes we only have to go beyond our fear, challenge the monster, and believe that we can do it.

We used to be an ordinary people. Every day we wake up at the same bed, take a shower at the same hour, go to work through the same road, fight with millions of cars for the same traffic, arrive at the office at pretty much the same time, meet the same people, do similar work like yesterday, then finish it at the soonest just to go home and get some spare time, just to do the same routines, watch same television show, over and over, and over, and oooover again..

Same thing happened to me. I used to wear batik at Thursday, same black flat shoes, same red handbag, same type of makeup, over and over, and over again. Weekdays just like previous weekdays, my weekend is full of sleeps, watching hours of TV shows alone, tons and tons and tons of chips, just like previous weekend.

But those happened when I was single, before I made one of the most critical turning points in my life: M-A-R-R-I-A-G-E. It wasn’t an easy decision. But I will never regret it.

New guy, quick time, short notice, changes life. Every word means fear.

But I just believe. Lots and lots of pray. And.... My life suddenly changed.

I don’t change that much though. I still wear my makeup, yet now with light lipstick – reddish nuance on my lips. My husband ensures me that I look cuter with brighther smile. I still spend my weekend on TV though; but now eating healthy foods. A guy sits by my side, where I can lean on his shoulder and smell his perfume, best mixed of morning breeze and rocking fruit. I still sleep a lot though. But I know if I forgot to turn the AC off, I won’t be waking up in cold. The blanket always covers. He did it.

I can’t ask for more. I don’t need perfect life, what is perfect anyway? I just want it to be as sweet as this. From now and since.

Another thought,

What if my life becames boring again?

I will have kids! ;p

This is the 15th week of my pregnancy!!!

This is the 15^th week of my pregnancy!!!

This is the time when the baby bump started to appear. Meaning what? Meaning that I have to find a new jeans :D hehehe.. Gue punya kebiasaan dudul ya.. dulu pas masih single ukuran jeans gw berkisar 29-30, tapi gw ngeyel dan makenya ukuran 28-29 biar sok kuyus J alhasil karena si gadis labil mendadak hamil, baru hamil 3 bulan uda sesaklah peyutku ini..

There are several changes I have made for these couple of weeks:

Before:

Makan 2x sehari, ga makan malem, jenis makan sembarangan, minum susu kalau pengen

After:

Makan (minimal) 3x sehari, dipaksa suami kudu makan malam walaupun eneg, makan sehat 4 sehat 5 sempurna dengan komposisi seimbang, minum susu hamil tiap inget at least sehari sekali karena disuruh si Mas, hahaha.. Sayur tiap makan kudu ada, kalau gak ada tetep harus ada, kalau ga ada juga masak!

Before:

Bobo jam 11 malem dijabanin, tengah malam bisa aja bangun tyus kerja. Pergi kerja nyetir, pulang baru disetirin si Mas.

After:

Jam setengah 8 uda nguap-nguap lucuk, jam 9 uda nempel sama bantal. Laptop jarang bgt dibawa pulang. Kalaupun dibawa pulang gak bakal di-apel-in; malah di-anggur-in. Jaraaaaaang banget nyetir, kalaupun nyetir Cuma bentar dan kalau lagi nyetir nguap sekali, langsung disuruh ganti sama si Mas. (Kadang suka pura-pura nguap biar digantiin si Mas)

Before:

Fashion: Jeans sama atasan apapun yang nemu di lemari

After:

Fashion: Flowing dress, chiffon dress, knee-length dress, cardigan & dress. Haha.. hidup dress! Berasa cantiiiik bgt kalau pake dress ala ala Kate Middleton sayang badannya beda banget

Before:

Kegiatan akhir minggu: Guling, guling, lumpat lumpat, lari lari, kayang kayang, jungkir balik, salto

After:

Berusaha kalem. Kegiatan akhir minggu: Ngantri di dokter kandungan / belanja baju dengan ukuran lebih besar / beli bubuahan / bobok.

Yah begitulah hari hari sebagai ibu muda baru. Menyenangkan Sangat berbeda, karena semua orang jadi:

·         Nanya kenapa saya gendut

Alhamdulillah, dengan mulai munculnya baby bump lucuk, saya jadi tinggal nunjuk peyut untuk menjustifikasi kegendutan. Sebelomnya, euleuh euleuh… boro boro… Dibilang: “abis kawin melar amat yas…” pengen deh di bulan Ramadhan yang suci ini gue menengadahkan tangan dan berdoa: Ya Allah, ampunilah orang-orang yang mendzalimi hamba-Mu ini.. Amin *konon katanya orang hamil adalah golongan orang yang doanya dihijabah*

·         Pegang-pegang peyut

Buat yang mau pegang-pegang, please banget yaaa… boleh megang, tapi pake LEBIH DARI SATU JARI. Saya mengijinkan anda pegang perut, bukan nusuk-nusuk perut saya pake satu jari anda. Pegang itu pake minimal 3 jari. Saya nggak suka di tunjuk tunjukkkkk!

·         Perhatian sama makanan yang saya makan

o   Apa-apa jadi gak boleh.

o   Makan mayonnaise gak boleh.

o   Makan indomie gak boleh.

o   Makan sushi mentah gak boleh.

o   Makan sop durian gak boleh.

o   Makan soda-sodaan, squash-squash-an gak boleh.

o   Makan buah ga dikupas gak boleh.

o   Makan lalapan atau sayur mentah gak boleh.

Hm… Begitulah…

Tahan

Tahan

Tahan...

*Fiuh*

So far my 6 months marriage period is sooooooooo...

It’s so fun being a housewife!

Kapan lagi ke PRJ beli lemari dan rak buku instead of sightseeing?

Kapan lagi ke Ace hardware and seeking for vase and aromatherapy for my living room?

Kapan lagi ke mall malah naksir sama karpet tebal buat ruang TV instead of dresses?

Kapan lagi browsing malah about recipe instead of latest make up trends?

Kapan lagi spending Saturday morning jongkok milih daun singkong instead of going to totok aura?

Hahahaha, my routines are definitely changed and seems like I found the “new me”

This is as fun as main rumah-rumahan and papa-mama-an; yet it involved millions of rupiahs to have the complete features :p

Yet, so far my 6 months marriage period is soooooooooo enjoyable J

I think I have transformed myself from selfish little girl into a more matured lady. From a dish taster into a dish maker muahahaha..

I can’t believe myself I finally can cook!!! Not only for me but also for my husband wohooo!! You know what you know what you know what??? He likes it!!!

Ah, I will share you some simple recipe that works on my next posts; simple yet can be done in 5-15 minutes cooking time. Well; most of them are masakan warteg sih, tapi what else we need in this world if not some good, simple, healthy, and cheap food with the warmth of family touch?

At the end, what keeps me alive is my home and its fill. No no no, not the house, it’s home. H-O-M-E. A place where you can go back anytime, anytime, without any pretention…

Baby inside my Tummy: Welcome, my Little Love :)

It has beeeen aaaaaaaaaaaagggeeeees since the last time I updated this blog.

Bahkan sampai saat ini blom selesai mereview vendor kawin sampe abis, hahahaha..

Urusan ibu rumah tangga emang banyak *belagunyaaa* hahaha..

A lot of new exciting things I have done for these last 4 months.

Mulai dari meng-conduct arisan di rumah sekalian, selametan rumah baru, sowan ke rumah pak RT, meng-establish new and intimate relationship dengan tukang sayur dekat rumah biar dapet ikan bawal harga murah, googling resep asik biar masakannya dipuji suami,  sampai nyoba-nyoba resto baru didepok sambil nonton couple of Hot Items movie as Iron Man 3 or Fast and Furious appeared. Tapi tetep doooonk tiap minggu gentian main ke Sushi Tei demi Chuka Idako atau ke Holycow demi 400gr big bites ribs eye/Sirloin hehehe.. Life seems fun, wooohooo!

Work seems fun too! I just conducted several campus visits, having those sparkling eyes looking at me while I shared some tips and tricks in applying Management Trainee program to my company, ah.. Such a wonderful thing to do…

Above all, ultimate happiness is doubled, if not tripled, with the result of previous *test pack session* JENG JENG JENG JENG! Finally two stripes seen, BEIBEEEH!!!!

Buat yang *sok* polos (atau emang polos beneran), gini ya sodara, ada konsep yang namanya test pack. Jadi test pack itu dipake untuk mengukur kadar jormon kehamilan dengan cara dicelupkan ke hasil sekresi tubuhmu yang non-keringat (baca: urine), *cepluk* gitu, terus didiemin deh, liat hasilnya. Kalau alatnya mahalan dikit ada tanda plus (+)—sekitar 40 ribu, kalau alatnya murahan (18-25 ribu), yang keluar tanda dobel strip (=) hehe. Tapi dua-duanya menandakan bahwa kalian sudah mengandung bakal janin itu, ladies! *yang berarti kalian bukan gadis lagi*

Hehehe, I do the test pack on Sunday 2 weeks ago, and checked officially to Obgyn (ini bahasa gaulnya dokter kandungan) on the day after. I got the confirmation that I’m on 5 weeks pregnancy J ah, the feeling is unspoken-lah..

Campur semuanya adalah terharu, kaget, bingung, takut, deh-deg-an, kuatir, tapi this is one of the ultimate happiness :)

By this week it will be 7 weeks pregnancy, I have been drinking susu hamil and changing and my ways of eating to be much much much healthier (and more) :) Si Mas is very excited and he has been very caring, patient, and always be there to help me out during my hard time of continuous vomit and stomachache. He spent his night sleepless to drive me every day in day and night since I always have the same sickness inside moving car, making me cups and cups of milk, forcing me to eat whenever I threw up, caressing me while I can’t sleep, asking to go to Gramedia to buy Pregnancy Guideline book. He is the sweetest man ever. While I’m being such a lazy bear *hihihi* (not proud, but still happy ;p)

At the end, this is a truly life-changing experience, and these are truly wonderful weeks ;) Cant wait for the weeks after!

Me + hubby + (kiddy) = Happy!

Ah sambung lagi ah ntar :p hihihi...

As the title said-lah: Baby inside my Tummy: Welcome, my Little Love :)

My Pre-Wedding Video Clip is on Board! My ultimate happiness!

This is my ultimate happiness!

We always, like ALWAYS, want to have one memory that last forever. And for me, I will to keep it in as creative way as possible. Ga cuma pake foto yang dicetak atau dilihat di laptop (masih jaman ya nyetak foto di fuji film? haha..), tapi dalam bentuk apa sodara-sodara? JENG JENG JENG... VIDEO CLIP a.k.a. cinematography!! Wohooo!

I have an absolutely sweet pre-wedding clip that I’m so proud of! Yay!

6. Flawless Make Up

Thanks to Mbak Mayang, who already shaped me from plain-make-up-only powder-and-eyeliner-kind-of-girl to be a “mature and humble” lady. Hehe. Mas satyo has been transformed too! From his high-school-boy-who-just-graduated-due-to-his-baby-face appearance to be a handsome and super charming gentleman! I put my trust on her; since she was already handling my make up since pre wedding photo session and it’s all pretty on cams!

My hair is just… lovely J hihihi, very natural at first session, and very childish at the second one hohoho.. jaman sekarang siapa sih yang masih pake rambut berkepang dua tinggi ala sailormoon? ;p

This session I use simple knee-length white dress and creamy-baby-green-tops theme. Si Mas are using pastel color that suits his skin tone very very well. In this session, I just realize that pastel colour; if it is at the right ingredients; might shape your dark skin into a lighter one *inget, lighter, sekali lagi LIGHTER, bukan light tone, haha*

Oh and….smokey eyes never dies :D

5. Very charming director

His name is evan secunda. Very serious about this. He is very dedicated yet funny! He makes us relax and he transformed us from super-duper-nervous couple into only act with a little- tense :p hahaha, we were super awkward and cant act. Definitely NOT ABLE TO! Yet as time goes by, the ice melts and our smile is (finally) just risen up. The only problem is… times needed. And many. Or much. Haha..

4. High quality of camera

I’m not sure about the spec of a camera, never really an expert on that. But my clip is actually a united puzzle from 5-10 seconds clip; that being shot in hundreds, like HUNDREDS of scene, and trust me, its-not-easy. Beeeuh..!

3. Incredible Venue

Nobody can guess where we were. Nope. No clue of the venue dooonk muahahaha.. I want to keep it as a secret for me and Si Mas only J Tapi perjalanan kesana jauuuuuh banget, tapi worth iiiit banget. Look look at the ranch, dan betapa lucu kuda2nya, dan betapa bagus pohon2nya. My favorite scene adalah di bawah pohon yang gedeeeeee banget… Mwuah!

2. Extra sweet plot

Intinya, ketika aku tlaaaaah deeeewasaaa (baca: pake notasi lagu sherina); itu I recall the memories during my “pacaran” time. The “knot” will be foto Polaroid taken during “masa pacaran” hihihi.. Ada adegan gendong2an, terus adegan tindih2an (yang kemudian disensor), terus adegan lari-lari, adegan guling-guling, adegan sweet2, ah lutunaaaa.. Lalu adegan ditutup dengan kehadiran si belahan hati yang pulang kantor #eaaaaaaa ahahahaha.. yayayayayayy.. lucunyaaa… *ini kata saya*

1. Inconceivable efforts worth the result

Ah, im not gonna say much about it. It was a looooooooooooong and haaaaaaard journey! But overall I’m satisfied and happy! Ah lihat sendiri aja deh :D

 This is My favourite part:

Favorite #5

03.28-03.31 the effort of our videographer is wordless, naik ke pohon, tanpa pengaman, gilaaa..

Favorite #4

03.34-03.38 super cute scene, guess what we did ;p

Favorite #3

1.50-1.58 ada anjing kecil lucu tiba-tiba lewat, jadi berasa FTV! :D

Favorite #2

03.01-03.10 the best venue, my mannn.. it’s like in NZ/Aussie’s ranch or somewhere faaar

Favorite #1

02.31-02.50 this is the sweetest one, very cool cinematography!!!!

Yayayayayayay!!!!

Take a look at the video and let me know if you are agree with me J

PS. Super big thanks untuk Myrza Photography, my favourite vendor who facilitate us to have this kind of memories :) Love you, guys!

Oh ya, buat yang ga bisa buka videonya, boleh dilihat di youtube ya, disini

I am the Cinderella: Story of Make Up & Wardrobe (Vendor Review)

I realize that I might not be a Cinderella. She has privilege to have the fairy godmother transformed her into a princess material. From the film and the book, I can also see that by default she already is a charming princess; kalau nggak mana mungkin dia di-bully setengah mati sama sodara-sodara-nya kan yaa book..

Unfortunately, not all women have that privilege to look beautiful like her; by default. Mayoritas dari kita-kita ini nggak kayak Dian Sastro yang kalau nguap masih aja cantik. Atau kita kita ini nggak kayak Sandra Dewi yang tidur mangap juga tetep imut. Saya aja ngerasa jelek banget kalau bangun tidur.

But then again, beauty is only skin deep à Makanya kita ngurusin skin setengah mati donk ya, pake Ponds BB cream biar cantik #produkUnilever #promosi #blogberbayarceritanya #padahalgratisan ahaha..

Wajar banget kan kalau orang yang mukanya cakep (calon kepo) kayak saya ini –kalau dilihat dari sedotan Starbucks- percaya banget bahwa the power of cosmetics, treatment, and makeup artist; can actually change someone’s appearance; like completely.

Walaupun gw pengguna setia makeup, tapi ya muka ga berubah-berubah banget. Secara yaaa.. Tiap hari gw ke kantor Cuma pake liquid foundation, bedak, pensil alis, eyeliner dan lipbalm (kadang lipstick) – Niatnya pengen pamer bahwa gw Cuma pake sedikit produk tapi kok list-nya jadi banyak

Makanya ya sodara-sodara, saya NIAT SEABIS-ABISNYA untuk cari tukang mek ap yang tersohor seantero jagad raya untuk mengubah wajah biasa gadis pantura ini menjadi “cetar membahana” saat saya menjadi ratu sehari saat nikahan kemarin.

Yaaak, jadi posting ini ceritanya mau ngebahas masyalah Vendor menor-menoran alias rias merias! Nah, jadi ceritanya ada 2 event ya sodara-sodara sekalian, akad nikah dan resepsi; yang ceritanya dilakukan pada hari nyang berbeda.

1. Akad Nikah, Rias by Sanggar Tiara Salon, Wardrobe by “self-made”

Mengapa Sanggar Tiara Salon (STS)? Karena sesungguhnya STS adalah rekanan Mas Win, mas-mas dekor mantab yang merupakan rekanannya bu Aburrahman, ibu-ibu catering yang merupakan rekanannya PLN, yang merupakan tempat kerja si Mama; muahahaha; the power of network is indeed powerful kan ya book..

Pimpinan sanggar ini namanya bu Tuty, sang jagoan yang konon sudah malang melintang di Dunia Rias-riasan sejak jaman Kabayan masih naksir Nyi Iteung. Saya sih percaya ajalah.. Muka saya udah cantik dari sononya sih *hayaaaah mau dipegang siapa aja pasti sama cantiknya #plisbangetskipbagianini

Kalau cerita mengenai kebaya akad nikah ini aku udah pernah share disini yaaak, silahkan dibaca-baca kisah mengharukan dan jatuh bangunyaaa.. akhirnya setelah berpeluh keringat, muncul si baju ini yang sekarang hadir dengan modifikasi disini dan disanaaa.. misalnyaa ekor menyeret sepanjang 1,5 m hasil “minjem” dari mbak Hera beserta bros juga hasil “minjem” dari mbak Hera yang baik hati dan tidak sombong (cerita mbak Hera sabar ya, ntar ada dibawah hehehe)

Ohya, balik lagi ke STS, disana aku minjem baju buat saksi, sama buat ortu pria kedua mempelai. Sama kain jarik buatku dan mama-Ibu. Lucunyaaaaaaaaaa baju Papa dan Bapak (dan Adik, yang jadi saksi), soalnya bajunya itu kayak bajunya SBY, bukan beskap jawa biasa, tapi surjan; jadi berasa keluarga keratoonn., Oohh, love it so much! Silahkan dilihat gambarnya J

(some are removed karena sekarang saya pakai hijab 😉)



Surjan si Papa, aku sukaaaa

Ekor tambahan dari mbak Hera bikin manis yaa :)

Nah untuk riasnya dilihat sendiri-lah performancenya. Aku suka banget rambutnya (sayangnya hairspraynya kurang banyak kayaknya, jadi pas uda siang langsung brudul); make-upnya kecuali bagian mata sih perfectooo.. Pictures tell more than 10,000,000 words #eaaa

Scoring!

1. Performance: 8,00

Aku sih suka, Cuma si Mas nggak suka soalnya mata aku-Mama-ibu ditempel-tempel selotip yang bikin kita ga bisa melek dan bikin mata kita sayu-sayu lucu gitu. Pas dibersihin rada susah soalnya lem bulu matanya menyakiti hatikyuuuw. Ow ow..

2. Timeliness: 7,00

Men, masak akad nikah jam 7, mbaknya dateng jam setengah 6. Ah kalau ini dudulitaaa lah..

3. Kebaikan hati & keinginan membantu: 8,0

Apa banget yak judulnya.. tapi intinya mbak mbak disini sangatlah baik hati dan tidak sombong (in very literal meaning). Cuma kenapa nilainya Cuma 8,00? Soalnya sangat helpful kalau kesana dateng langsung. Kalau di bbm atau di telf respondnya lama euuuy…

4. Harga: 9,0

Nggak tau persis sih, tapi sepaket sama dekor, dlsb dipatoknya uda murmer banget

5. Lokasi: 6,5

Strategis daerahnya, di Pancoran. Tapi actual places-nya jauh cyiiiiinnn…

6. Sewa-sewa baju: 9,5

Oke kualitasnya, dan variasinya, kinclongnya, ukurannya, maknyuuus

Overall: 8,0

Recommended, especially kalau mau nyewa baju yaaa.. untuk rias, kayaknya kudu cerewet  sedikit J

2. Resepsi, Rias by Hasina, Wedding Dress by Rumah Pengantin Hera

Kalau kata kamu-kamu semua saya manglingi gak di foto ini? :D

(removed karena sekarang saya pakai hijab 😉)

Hahaha, kalau kata saya sih, saya mangling banget #pedeeeee abis aku udah bela-belain puasa mutih 3 hari, kalau sampe gak bersinar awasssss cyiiiinn..

Kalao compared to STS, Hasina is better ya, melihat determinant factor sebagai berikut:

1. Performance: 9,50

Ah, sayangnya make up suami saya ketebelan. Hiks.

Kalo make up saya, katanya teman-teman sih saya manglingi (bahasa jawa; translated: cantik abis sampai gak nyangka ini siapa ya.. Ya Ampun Cakep abis, Aw Aw Aw..) #sambitpakesendaljepit

Teaser Teaser :D

Sekali lagi ya, bersama-samaaaaa…

1…

2..

3.

Manglingi.

Sekian.

2. Timeliness: 8,50

Uda ready dari jam 2, agak overwhelming sih soalnya pager ayu/bagus-nya dating rada telat dan tau-tau baru pada gedebrukan deket-deket mau mulai. Untuk mbak-mbaknya banyak dan gesit. Jempollah. Sayangnya, kita agak miscomm sodara-sodara. Karena kondisi kesehatan yang perform di panggung kan Mas Tri (kakaknya si Mas), bukan Bapak; jadi ternyata kita butuh 3 jarik ortu mempelai pria (Papa-Bapak-Mastri); sayangnya Cuma ada 2 biji jariknya –ngepas abis-, alhasil sempet kacaulah; untung mas-mas Hasina sigap ngebawain dari Rawamangun ke venue #buset #gakkurangjauh hehehehe.. salut saluuuut..

3. Kebaikan hati & keinginan membantu: 9,0

Mantablah.. dari pertama dateng, fitting-fitting buat temen-temen, buat Papa Mama, sampai pas technical meeting, wohoooo.. ini okeee banget bok. Mbak Kiki-Hasina sebagai marketingnya juga helpful sangattt..

4. Harga: 9,0

Ini gw pake paket gedung sih mengcover rias & baju ortu mempelai, nambah baju kakak-kakak-adik ipar (soalnya jatah dari gedung untuk 14 orang penerima tamu dan pager ayu-bagus udah abis hehehe), , nambah 750.000 karena eke pake paes ageng, nambah lagi 2,000,000 soalnya minta dirias sama ibu Waty si master yang punya Hasina, nambah 1,000,000 soalnya aku pake paket panggih (ini seru bangetttt, ada injek telor, suap-suapan, lempar sirih, yang lucu-lucu itu, tapi kita ga usah nyiapin semuanya karena dengan si paket aku dapet semua itu dari Hasinanya) okey banget kok cyiiiin

5. Lokasi: 7,0

Depok-Rawangun Jauh, Sekian.

6. Sewa-sewa baju: 8,0

Hmm, baju ortu mempelai memenuhi standard J kainnya penerima tamu lucuuu (karena gw yang miluh hehehe), untuk baju pengantin aku nggak ambil disini cyiin..

Overall: 8,5

Recommended abeeeees donk cyiiin, especially kalau mau rias, disini tempatnya! Paes agengnya MUANTEBBBB…!

Yang belum kita sebut-sebut: Wedding Dress!!!

3. Wedding Dress, by Rumah Pengantin Hera

Yup, kita make sebuah Vendor Baru yang hits dan melejits. Namanya Rumah pengantin Hera by Mbak Neneng Herawati. Panggilannya Mbak Hera, hehehe..

Mbak Hera adalah seorang wanita sederhana, sangat suka membantu, dan suka bikin terharu atas dedikasinya… Dia adalah tempat saya menyerahkan segenap jiwa raga untuk baju pengantin; serta tempat saya sewa perdana untuk pakaian Mama-Ibu, baik untuk akad maupun resepsi. Baju-nya Mama-Ibu panjangnya semata kaki loooh.. Jadi ga kalah eksis ya bok sama pengantinnyaaa..

Mbak Hera is definitely the most fairy godmother among other vendor! Baiknya masya Allah, minjemin bros, kerudung, manset, ciput, mahkota, aksesoris jilbab buat mama-Ibu, brooch buatku, ekor dan kerudung akad, all for free J yayayayayay!!! Bajunya mbak Hera juga bagus dan pas banget di badan J Mwuaaaah..

Love you, mbak hera!

Gak usah dibikin per point-lah. Pokoknya overall score: 9,50!!! Hohohoho…

Berikut gambarrrr:






Cin, ekornya puanjang banget. Belakangnya sengaja polos biar keliatan "body" eke :p



Yang gue seneng, bentuknya itu kutu baru (kebaya ibu kita Kartini), jadi leher dan dada eke jadi "sesuatu banget" gitchuuu dyehh cyiiinn.. #ngarep

Emang sih kata orang: buat apa sih niat-niat banget kudu cantik. Toh Cuma sehari aja. EXACTLY! If you asked WHY, I’d say: WHY NOT!!! Justru karena Cuma sehari, kenapa sih ga sekalian all out? Foto lo bakal kepajang di dinding rumah seumur hidup juga gituh…

Do the best-lah for your own wedding. That’s for your own’s sake.

Hidup Penganti  NIAT!!! :D

Vendor Review: Decoration By Mas Win & Gaya Kharisma

Let’s finish the unfinished!

Hmm.. Check satu-satu yuk cyiin reviewku buat dekor :)

In this part i will divide my review into two parts: Akad Nikah (yang berada dirumah) dan Resepsi yang berada di gedung. Keduanya pake vendor yang berbeda, yuk check satu-satuuuuu ;)

1. Akad Nikah; decoration vendor by Mas Win

Hehehe, kok by mas win? Soalnya si mas ini gak bernama vendor-nya hohoho.. beliau adalah adiknya Ibu Abdurrahman, yakni pemilik catering Laut Tawar yang rasanya tiada dua-nya itu loh. Aku hanya ketemu sama mas win 1x, Cuma sebentar banget, paling juga setengah jam-an gitu. Aku Cuma nunjukin “NUANSA”, sekali lagi, nuansa, yang aku mau à “ijo dan putih ya mas, mayoritas putihhh, dengan sedikiiiiit aja aksen gold..”, dan iya langsung mengiyakan.

Pada saat itu sih ragu ya boook, secaraaaa mas Win ini aja disuruh ngirim email gak ngirim-ngirim; disuruh ngirim contoh gambar juga gak ngirim-ngirim, deg-deg-an banget yaaaa cyiiin. Apalagi sama mas wim itu muraaaaaaaaaah abis. Makin deg-deg-an lagi (ini gimana sih, dikasih mahal protes, dikasih murah juga protes hahaha..)

Gw pesen tenda sepanjang beranda dan jalanan rumah, plus meja & kursi bulat kapasitas untuk 100 orang, additional kursi sekitar 50 buah, pelaminan, kamar pengantin, full bouquet bunga dimana-dimana, dekor rumah (anak tangga, pergola depan, teras, taman, garasi, name it), dan rias pengantin & keluarga; plus sewa baju akad untuk keluarga (diluar pengantin, hanya 2 ortu mempelai dan 2 saksi), tebak berapaaaaaaaaa? Kurang dari 12 juta.. meeeen...

Pokoknya ya, gw bismillah aja deh, akhirnya gue memilih mas Win ini juga karena papa mama yakin abeeeess sama si bu Abdurrahman, jadi ya.. yang terjadi terjadilah, kun fayakun mareeee...

Hasilnya?

JENG JENG JENG JENG: SPEECHLESS.

Ini vendor gue kasih nilai 9,75 deh.

BEUUUUHHH..

Mas win H-1 udah datang kerumah membawa sepasukan lengkap, udah membangun tenda, taplak-plak mejanya lengkap dan bersiiiih, bawa berbagai variasi warna yang lengkap, kainnya licin disetrika semua, terus men men men... bunganya bagus banget dan GAK MURAHAN SAMA sekali, dan penting abis: WANGIIIIIII walaupun ga pake parfum2an karena smeuanya asli dan cakeppppp banget.

Tau gak? Mas win ngerangkai sendiri bunga-bunganya, aih aih aih... gw aja yang H-1 Cuma leyeh-leyeh doank (ehm, untuk mengeluarkan aura #alesaaan #mageeer), ga berhenti berdecak kagum ah, love mas Win lah..

Langsung aja dilihat hasilnya: HIGHLY RECOMMENDED bgt nih si mas!

Hanya saja perlu di-watch out, mungkin karena mas win ini bekerja dengan tim kecil, harus kudu dieksplore apakah beliau bener2an bisa handle “gedung” dalam waktu singkat :)

Love mas Win!!!! :*

2. Resepsi – Ghaya Kharisma

Dihandle oleh mbak Ridha, pertamanya terlihat meyakinkan sekali, hehe. Mbak Ridha baik dan kelihatan menyimak penjelasan dan maunya aku.

TAPI sodara-sodara, pelayanan selanjutnya mengecewakan. Ghaya kharisma Cuma punya 1 gebrok putih, terus pas technical meeting hanya mengirimkan “teknisi” yang kayaknya walaupun sudah dijelaskan tetap nggak mudeng, terus ALL MY REQUEST were gone.

• Aku request warna hijau muda pupus ala lemon; yang dikasih hijau tua ala mushola.
• Aku request bunga dominan putih dengan hijau dan gold (atau kuning) sebagai aksen, yang muncul bunga kuning
• Aku request ada air mancur dan payung-payung putih didepan pelaninan, yang ada Cuma taman mini
• Aku request tenda yang nggak kosong (dan kalaupun ada terlalu banyak ruang kosong aku minta diisi oleh standing flower/ilalang/lamp/photo), ternyata Cuma meja photo dan standing frame; itupun yang nyediain vendor photoku dan bukannya decor.
• Aku request sangkar burung yang penuh bunga, yang ada tiang dan kandangnya doank
• Aku baru ditanya-tanya detail menjelang H-3 pula; seolah-olah kita nggak pernah technical meeting
• Aku waktu itu pilih Ghaya kharisma karena konon katanya banyak gratisan, eh malah minta apa-apa di-charge L

Overall, it doesn’t meet my expectation......

Even if ada bunga dan hiasan yang cuanteeeek, it comes from my catering: Kiki!!!! (Will review it on another articles yaaa..)

Some of the pictures tell how Ghaya kharisma’s performance on that day...

No no no no.. I didnt say it was a disaster, not at allllll..

But for me Ghaya kharisma is just so-so; not bad at all, but for me, it’s not satisfying either. The only vendor that wasn’t perform & comply to my standard.

But then again, it goes back to your judgment ya readers :) mungkin aja sh** just happened on my case but it wasn’t happen to you; so dont just read this review and dont change your mind that easy.

Good luck in choosing your wedding decoration vendors!

I’m making my own life without giving a damn to others

Little hut when we create more and more coincindences…

Hahaha, seru ya kalimat pertamanya! ;p You know kan ya bahwa this blog is basically recording my life with si Mas. A whole new world (Aladin banget yaaa booook..) yang tercipta dari kebetulan-kebetulan kecil yang gue yakini adalah bagian dari jaring laba-laba yang udah di sulam oleh Allah; yang gw ga tahu kapan mulainya, dan makin ngga tahu lagi kapan berakhirnya.

I talked to my ex boss one time. Three months ago, he doubted my decision. The decision was a one in a lifetime experience; it will then determine my future and define my happiness: my marriage. Three months ago, he challenged me for my choice; why do I have to go this fast? Who am I marrying? Do I know well about the guy? Am I ready to be tied by a guy who will be my everything till death do us apart? And the ultimate question: Are you sure?

At that point of time, three months ago, honestly, one feeling occured: I was offended. Truly.

Why was I? Oh... I’m a complete adult, for God’s sake. True that I was just 24 years old at that moment; but I’m stretched 6 years from the point when government gives me freedom to think, decide, and act as a full civilians. A formal entity has granted me a right of self-determination; without my parent’s supervision. They (government) didn't not only recognize, but also admitted and respected my OWN decision. And nobody, once again, nobody can judge me for my “young” age. I’m mature enough to choose and defend my faith.

My boss, like many others, believe that I’m not fully aware the consequences of being married, that I was making an impulsive decision, and not considering the long term cost. They don’t understand why did I have to make the decision that fast, to this person I barely know, and how I was forgetting my past lover so quick. Or they might even assume, that because of the transition period I went through was strangely so smooth; I already planned it. Rumours spreaded, that I was splitting my heart into two plates and just broke one when another plate is already filled by the right dishes.

Mannnn.. All.Is.Wrong.

Why? Because things just happened.

And you just know; and can't to anything. Certain things are SIMPLY meant to be happened.

That easy? Yeah, THAT easy! Have you ever filled that you were looking for a very nice dress; you don’t even know how it will look like, but suddenly your eyes found a nice silky dress that just fits you perfectly? Or have you been so hungry, you only need good food but you don't know what you want, then suddenly your eyes meet a very tempting tukang mie ayam with asap yang mengepul and your appetite is simply flooding? Or or or... Have you ever feel so broken, really need some money desperately! and suddenly when you reach out your pocket you just found a sheet of money, 50.000 inside?

Once again: Things just happened.

Coincidences are real.

And if coincidences happened, doesn’t mean that’s wrong.

Coincidences are not less meaningful than planned action.

Just last week, my ex boss, the same person with the one who doubted me 3 months ago-- got back to me; he was asking for another chat. He saluted me for choosing my life path and finally making that huge decision. He admitted that I indeed created a good decision since my “past lover” was remembered by a lot of people--because of his wrong-doings (which is completely not the point of this post). He greeted me for my bravery to confront people’s underestimation and negativity. He confessed that he did question me before; but not now.

I smiled.

No No No.

Not because my choice or my bravery.

I did because I know I’m making my own life without giving a damn to others. I was so proud of myself because I didn’t let the others defined me for my choice. I was so happy because I won the fight with myself, fighting my fear of people’s doubt.

This post is not intended to clarify anything.

I just want to say two things:

a. You should stand for yourself and defend your faith.

b. Coincidences are not less worthy than planned action.

And I love my husband even more ever since

#apaseeeeeeeh #gaknyambung

Hahahahahahha..

Criteria of The Best Husband on Earth!

Ps. Inspired by Lucy Wiryono's writings.

Hari ini tanggal 25 Februari 2013. Berarti... It’s about 1,5 months after I got married with my husband #yaiyalah #samasiapalagi.

1,5 months is a very very very short period to judge, but so far, everything goes smoothly, if not very very very smooth #lebaynyamulaimuncul

I just remember what happened to the “little tyas” while at elementary school, I was asked by my friends about “how your future husband will be?” Woooow, siap-siap narik nafas buat liat list-nya yaaa..

• Yang ganteng
• Yang putih
• Yang rambutnya lurus
• Yang pake kacamata
• Yang tinggi
• Yang mapan
• Yang soleh
• Yang pinter ngaji
• Yang setia
• Yang halus kayak orang jawa
• Yang pinter masak
• Yang sayang ibunya
• Yang dewasa

Pengennya buanyak buanget, kalau di-list mah ga bakal kelar sampai besok bacanya. Yang namanya kriteria ideal, widiiih... Segede gabanlah.. (Btw, gaban itu apa sih? Terus emang segede apaaa..)

Tapi kalau sekarang ditanya apakah suamiku memenuhi kriteria itu 100%? Meeennnn, siapa sih yang bisa menemukan suami cucok 100% with their needs? Almost none! Even if they believe that the criteria is met, it's either they are on denial or, realized it or not, their criteria might be shifted.

Yang gue sadari adalah bahwa kriteria yang gw sebutin itu adalah kriteria pas saya masih timik timik sekecil anak ayam. Kalau sekarang saya ditanya, waduh, kriterianya udah jauh bedaaa.. Saya yakin, kamu pasti juga begitu. Bisa jadi lebih details, bisa jadi makin simpel, bisa jadi makin abstrak (for the latest ini mungkin yang sudah tidak bisa melihat light at the end of the tunnel because of the never ending searching of their jodoh ;p)

Kalau aku, makin lama kiterianya makin bersahaja: Yang punya komitmen. Dan jujur.

Buat apa orangnya super brilian kalau ga pernah ngajak nikah?

Buat apa dia udah mapan dan siap menikah tapi orangnya suka main serong?

At the end, with certain set of criteria yang muluk-muluk, itu jadi hambatan lo untuk membuka hati. For me, be relax-lah... Jangan sok kepedean; jangan sok ke-laku-an! Haha.. masak gara-gara mobil bukan honda jazz, atau gara-gara muka ga kayak lukman sardi, atau gara-gara masakannya ga seenak Bara Patirajawane terus dicoret, ya ga gitu juga ya bok!

Lagian mana tau kalau lo emang se-attractive itu? Kalau kata mbak Lucy Wiryono yang punya Holycow steak, she said:

“Sebetulnya yang paling penting dari soal kriteria ini juga diri kita sendiri sih. Apa kita udah jadi orang yang cukup baik sehingga merasa berhak menilai orang lain? Jangan2 kita ngarep dapet orang yang on paper nya bagus, tapi kita sendiri ternyata bukan catch material...”

“Gue sih percaya banget, energi yang sefrekuensi akan saling berdekatan. Jadi kalo lo pengen dapet pasangan dengan kriteria tertentu (yg masuk akal tentunya ya) ya kita dulu lah yang jadi orang itu. Simpelnya gini, kalo lo tukang ngeluh..ya biasanya gak akan akan jauh2 tuh..akan dapet yang tukang ngeluh juga. Kalo lo orang yang menyenangkan..ya InsyaAllah akan didekatkan juga dengan orang yang menyenangkan..”

You have to think beyond, you need someone yang ga cuma enak dilihat satu-dua tahun; tapi for the rest of your life this person will accompany you at your best, and most importantly, at your worst...

Hmm...

Back to the counting days,

After 1,5 months together...

For me,

My husband is the most perfect one.

I simply can’t ask for more.

My criteria are all in him #cieeeh #adayangGR #inidenialbukanya :p

Well,

Thanks Allah for giving me the chance to know, and be together with him.

Why Write?

Some people say that I am an open book ’cause I write about my personal life to the whole world.

Some might  even think I have no privacy.

The thing they sometimes forget, each and every person has their own unique way in coping with life.

And being an open book that they think I am, it’s only the surface they see, for there are so many hidden chapters I chose to keep it to myself.

I chose to write about happy stuff, some things that people can laugh at, or laugh together with.

‘Cause in this shitty, shitty world, if you don’t help yourself to be happy, you will lose your sanity.

This blog, is 5% sneak peek of my life.

My happy part.

My gratitude for every blessing that despite my problems, in some small, unimportant events or things, the Man above still gives me the privilege to laugh, smile, and feel fulfilled.

So if you ask, why write?

Because I’m helping myself.

Because I need to survive the shittiness.

Because I need to keep my sanity.

Some people have their own way in dealing with life and problems.

And I choose to write :)